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Hi Yoda,
Yes it is pretty much a 50/50 shared agreement. (When it suits of course for things like school holiday cover, but for maintenance she says it's 30/70)
Despite the name I am currently residing in England.
Angus
Doesn't seem fair that you are paying maintenance at all on a 50/50 legal agreement, but the danger of you upsetting the apple cart and trying to pursue this is that she will stop you from seeing your kids as much to get more maintenance, obviously not ideal.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
I may need a new topic for this, but I am wondering about raising the issue of a proper 50:50 custody, a full week each.
If she was to say no (does what she want carry more weight than what I want?) what are my chances of getting 50:50 custody if I were to persue it legally / have a judge decide?
I don't think she could argue he shouldn't be with me half the time since she hasn't had a problem sharing so far. Surely shared custody is a reasonable request and the child should be allowed to have equal time with both parents?
Angus
hi,
heres some useful info here:
http://www.separateddads.co.uk/sharedcustodyofyourchildren.html
there have been cases where it has worked. like you have the kids 1 week on, next week off. if you and the ex are on reasonable terms and you have direct communication, then thats very helpful. if you and the ex live close to each other etc.
i saw another thread on here, where someone wrote along the lines of; if you see your kids 2 nights each week, then that is effectively 50/50 shared care.
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