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Help guys. My ex is going through her solicitors for everything. I made a proposal for child maintenance which is very close to what the cms calculator showed. However now her solicitor is asking I show them my last 3 payslips to prove I'm being truthful. Should I be showing solicitor my payslips or not? They said if I dont show it they will file a case with cms.
Does it put me at any disadvantage showing payslip for when finances come up or anything....
Also if I did direct pay via cms if circumstances change and I get more overnights how easy is it for me to adjust payments? Do I have to open a new case with cms each time? Or do I have the flexibility to change the payments myself via direct pay
You don't have to provide payslips, however, if you have nothing to hide then no harm providing them. You will need to declare earnings to sort out finances anyway.
Also, whilst usually the advice is to try to avoid CMS being involved especially if you have variable pay, considering your ex has a solicitor who will know what they're doing, if it was me, I'd just open up a CMS case myself and let them calculate how much to pay and then just pay that amount directly to the ex. Saves all the hassle.
If you get overnights (get it agreed in court order or consent order) you just need to update the CMS with a copy and they recalculate the amount payable.
If it was just you and ex working it out then would be easier to just use online calculator as you can make changes/adjustments easier and quicker but as she is using a solicitor who will query things anyway, then you might aswell open a CMS case.
I agree, for the sake of the one off £20 fee, opening a case with CMS resolves the issue, and pretty much takes it out of the hands of the solicitor. Whatever you do, do NOT agree a one off payment instead of paying child maintenance, otherwise you will and up paying that in addition to child maintenance.
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