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Hi guys so have the official documents through my door today showing my payments are worked out from 4th May but payment due on 1st June. (Monthly my preferred option)
Been thinking about this today I had a family based arrangement £60 pw not missing a single payment and guy on the phone when I called CMS said so you all set up now dont need to make a payment till 1st June £259.
Now I wish to maintain a stress free relationship with my ex do I pay her off via voluntary payment for next 3 weeks or she will struggle big time and has mental health issues our relationship overall is very good but she done CMS just to confirm my salary etc no bad feelings for her doing that I'm a chilled guy and she has her own probelms I guess and must check everything
Hi, I was in same position and paid it as I wanted to do my bit for the kids.. You don't have to pay it but if you can afford it and it will avoid issues then its a decision for you to make.
Cheers man yes I would feel guilty because June 1st seems so far away and she's already struggling.
Hopefully she understands too its monthly(£259 fixed on 1st) because issue is if on weekly and its a 5 week month I must find 59 per week x5 outlay (£295 because of that extra 5th week before payday)
If your monthly paid would you prefer paying weekly or monthly,
I would pay monthly as get it out of the way..
Whilst weekly in a 5 week month it's higher, over 12 months the amount is the same weekly or monthly...
You're right, 1st June seems quite far away and I can imagine this could cause further stress for everyone.
If you can afford to do it and are willing, why not? It would seem the nice thing to do. The world needs a bit more of that.
Its a nice thing to do and I shall continue with old payments till June 1st,
But I just don't think she understands that now its a open CMS case payments are worked out from 4th May and the due date for that monthly payment is not till the 1st so even if I pointed out I will now do 3 more weekly voluntary payments I don't think she would understand that or be thankful.
In her mind we are just continuing as normall on weekly of old family based arrangement and that the CMS have only done a income check ,technically im paying twice till it starts
@jeremymeeks1 you could try registering the voluntary payments with CMS via the portal (there is an option) and see if the CMS recognise them and then recalculate your payments going forward if double paying is an issue for you.. However consider that this may annoy the ex and whether you want to go down that route...
Hi mate yeah for me it's just not worth the stress also we haven't spoke about this yet but after many year of paying weekly privately I've decided monthly is better because I just want it out the way,
This im sure will causes hiccups any idea what I could say to make it look like I must pay monthly.
Maybe I could make up CMS decided I pay 1st of every month because I'm monthly salary?
I think you probably have to let that go and know you've done the right thing for the kids even if she doesn't appreciate it.
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