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Further to my post on making your kids laugh and telling them you love them everyday ...
i got to thinking about how many adults are still waiting to hear the words “I love you†from their parents.
As blokes sometimes it doesn't feel easy to say – “I love youâ€Â, but our kids really need it.
To all the 'real men' out there -
Be bold, just tell them you love them - just as they are. Don’t wait for them do something to deserve it. It will make a difference.
Buzz
It works the other way too - how many adult children tell their parents they love them? I certainly didn't until a close friend of mine lost his Dad to suicide. It was a really awful experience to live through but I called mine that day to tell him how much I appreciated him & made him promise to never do that to me! It got me into the habit & I usually finish calls to him with those two words. He wasn't perfect, but he was/is my Dad & I am glad he is still alive today - don't wait until you lose them to regret not telling them...
Whilst at it, tell them you are proud of them as well 😀
It works the other way too - how many adult children tell their parents they love them? I certainly didn't until a close friend of mine lost his Dad to suicide. It was a really awful experience to live through but I called mine that day to tell him how much I appreciated him & made him promise to never do that to me! It got me into the habit & I usually finish calls to him with those two words. He wasn't perfect, but he was/is my Dad & I am glad he is still alive today - don't wait until you lose them to regret not telling them...
I was 'lucky' enough that my father was diagnosed with a terminal illness, so I got to tell him this before he died. It was one of the hardest things I have done, not because I didn't, but because I was not used to expressing such emotions to him. My mother said that when I said it to him, he had a look of being in heaven. I'm certainly very, very glad that he knew how much he meant to me before he died.
I tell my loved ones I love them all the time,im not embarrased one little bit. My parents both died close together and im so glad that I used to tell them I love them. I would hate to be regretting them not knowing how much I loved them.
Lifes too short..
I agree with this post - I was brought up in a household that didn't express love, I barely remember being hugged. I therefore struggle to express this emotion to my children. We do hug and they know I love them I really wish I could tell them more often.
If you have the chance tell them, if there is nothing else to say then tell them - watch their faces and I bet it will be worth it.
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