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Hi All
This is my first time on here and i wanted to get some advice and hopefully speak to fellow Dads and hopefully meet up with someone.
I am 36, have 3 children, live in kent
This is my story in short :
wife wanted to separate 3.5 years ago after 15 years together
i had to leave marital home
I lose all my friends (her friends husbands)
after 6 months i find out she was having affair with my friend
(plus 2 others)
house has to be sold but its in negative equity so foot the bill (£9000) she doesnt wrok
she moves in with her boyfriend (my old friend) with my kids
about 6 months after this i receive a loan bill which is in joint name for a car she drives around in, she has not paid it for months and now they are chasing me for £3500, she cant pay as she doesnt work.
i have a girlfriend now and a baby boy.
I am struggling with all of this, debt pushed onto me, stress of baby and work, along with this i have no one to vent to or talk to because all my friends deserted me...... help, advice or just someone to chat to.
Hi kdt101,
Wow you really have had a tough time.
More than happy to chat with you. How old is your baby ? are you and your girlfriend living together?
Keep talking
Gooner
Hi Gooner
Thanks for the reply. My baby is 8 1/2 months now, yes we live together.
🙂
Hi There,
Welcome to the forum, we are all friendly and have been through all sorts of struggles probably covering all aspects between all the members on here.
Join in the chat, ask for advice or just feel free to vent away we are all more than happy to chat and try and help you through this.
GTTS
Hi kdt101,
How bad is the debt situation? With a new baby, Maintenance for your other children and this debt that's been pushed onto you from your ex I guessing you may be finding your finances a lot stretched at the moment?
We are more than happy to chat with you, offer advice or just read as you vent - whatever you need.......
Gooner
Hey Fella yeah sound like you've had a tough time of it too.
I found I had similar self image issues after I was done over in a similar fashion to yourself, then ended up with some utter head case who was violent!
Now I have a new partner and she's just great and has restored my faith that there not all mental.
Just try to keep the fact that your new partner loves you and try to make it a clean start.
I've been in touch with a body called step change for debt advise and the are worth using I'll give you the national number its 0800 138 1111 and they have a web site too.
www.stepchange.org
They should help you out fella it's very difficult at first but try to look at the positives in your life and build from there.
All the best with your new life
PcP
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