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[Solved] just started counciling

 
(@pete76)
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after a year of what i thought was coping .ive finaly managed to bite the bullet and start counciling .. i feel a right failure for having to do this and i hope it doesnt affect my upcoming final statement hearing but after my first session i know i need it before i self emplode .. already strained my relationship with my partner and my 4 step kids and a reality check recently from my 17 yr old (she made me sign a declaration saying i wouldnt spend any of my money on alcaholic substances ) i just new i had to walk through the door .. result of first session .. i'm a bit of a mess.. hopefully eventually it will clear all i can say is if i can do it anyone can ....

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Topic starter Posted : 13/02/2014 9:22 pm
(@got-the-tshirt)
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Hi,

Don't feel like a failure, counsiling isn't a sign of failing but more showing you are making sure you don't fail.

Counsilling will help you so much and the more you attend the better you will feel.

It sometimes takes a wake up call to get you to think about where you are and how to get yourself in a better place.

Well done for taking the first steps, I don't think it will effect your case other than in a positive way as you are showing that you are getting help to resolve the issues you have. Good luck.

GTTS

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Posted : 13/02/2014 11:20 pm
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 Mojo
(@Mojo)
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GTTS is right...don't feel that you have failed, it takes courage to admit there are problems and putting it right!

Best of luck with it all.

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Posted : 14/02/2014 5:30 pm
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(@daver)
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Ive been in councelling for the past year and Im supposed to be a rough tough ex Marine.....little does the world know....;)

You are being strong by recognising that you need asisstance and alcohol and any other substances are mal adaptive coping strategies which do not help address the underlying issues in the long run, they just avoid them by numbing the pain.

Be proud and embrace it.

Well done Pete...

Regards,

Dave

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Posted : 15/02/2014 12:21 am
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(@pete76)
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thankyou for youre support . i know i have a long way to go ive had a lot of [censored] in my life which i really havnt dealt with .. and now with not been fully involved/having propper access to my 3 daughters for over a year after been so close to them has really filled my head to the brim .. anyway beginning to believe i could be turning the corner with my moods and drinking etc .. long way to go but glad i started ....

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Topic starter Posted : 15/02/2014 12:42 am
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