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At the end of my first court case, the courts told my ex that they would not listen to her accusations again, a line was drawn, they said only new allegations would be taken in to account.
Just to be clear you do not currently have a court order for your child?
The courts will take in to account the age of child and are they at school, can you take them to school, nursery.
I hadn’t seen my son (baby):for 2 years while the court case was ongoing. The courts gave me contact in a contact centre, then contact with child and ex, then eventually he came home. It all takes time and goes at pace to suit the child. Perhaps you should have a plan in your mind to build contact up slowly. My court order stated contact times for first 6 weeks, then it changed for few more weeks contact increasing all the time, then had a set date where the final arrangement would start from.
Which was Thursday, Tuesday then long weekend, built up to overnight stays. I pick up from school and drop back to school, so don’t see ex. It Might look good if you come up with a proposal like this and say happy to work at a pace to suit my child.
The courts are acting for the child, they need to know they are going to be safe, happy, cared for, so that’s where you should come from. They don’t like parents attacking each other in statements or in court. Have you been told to do a statement?
if you do have to go to court, they have security, you can take a friend, plenty of seats so don’t sit near them, don’t react to them, if they do anything it will go against them, the judge will be told.
It will be worth all of this worry when you have your child in your life.
If you let the court know that there are issues between you, they should make arrangements for you to be able to sit in a separate area while you are waiting to go in.
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