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😮 In the heat of the moment have you ever made a rash discipline statement e.g. ‘you are grounded forever’? What's the craziest threat you ever made, and how did you get out of following it through?
I think most of us have threatened the grounded for a year one...
We quarter our kids (they get.a warning and if they continue they lose 15mins off there bed time)...
I admit losing it with my daughter once and quartering her so many times she would have been in bed from 4pm.. Whilst I thought she had been naughty (turned out later it wasn't quiet as I thought!!!) she did really sassed me, and she just got to me and so pretty much anything she said I kept quartering her.. She was losing it because I was losing it (and because she felt it was unfair - which it was!!) ... Anyway I stormed out and then as I calmed down realised I'd blown it...
How did I handle it? Well I reasoned if it was a colleague at work or a mate I would.... Apologise... Yet there is something about apologising to your own kids... But I figured I had little choice - so I gingerly went up to her room sat her down and said 'sorry'... And you know what?? It worked wonders - she apologised back for being rude and we had a hug and moved forward... It turned from one terrible arguements to one of those special moments in our relationship...
I know I realised its okay to apologise to your kids when you get it wrong... It doesn't change that you are the adult but it taught us both something that day.. Sometimes I think we are so used to our kids (and partners) we take them for granted and forget just how much we love them... I got to the point of treating her worse than a casual friend or colleague and yet she was my daughter - the apple of my eye - my princess..
It's realised me too cos I realise i don't have to get it right BUT that doesn't make me any less Dad!!
My best mate came over during the summer, his little boy of 4 was being a proper sod. Well out of character, but he was still doing it! They were going to the safari park the next day so my mate told his son if he didnt sit down and behave he would feed him to the lions the next day. He didnt move all afternoon without permision from an adult. Thankfully my mate didnt have to back down...
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