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My awesome middle boy, whose worked his absolute socks off this year (y6) was told his work was so good he was at high school level.
I've just taken a call from school to say he's been placed in detention type thing for the SEVENTH time this term due to his behaviour!
I know exactly what this is!! This term is when contact began. I expect he's also seeing his older brother be lavished with expensive gifts for his unruly behaviour and now following suit!
I'm gutted.
Were you aware of the previous 6 detentions? If not, then why has the school left it so long to inform you - they must be aware of the influence that his older brother might have, directly or indirectly.
He told me, but he's also a MASSIVE liar, thinks it's cool to be in trouble, although he's usually not, he like me to think he is! Parents evening they said his behaviour was "impeccable"!!
I haven't really made school aware of what's going on, they only started there in April and we looked on it as a fresh start, although he has had his little blips and got upset, he's usury fine.
I've spoken to him tonight an I think he's a bit worried how Xmas is gonna pan out, told him not to worry he'll see his dad and get his presents and stuff and he just said he doesn't want them, he won't be going when he gets back off holiday or the weeks to follow! He got quite upset and angry when I questioned why, said he didn't have to go and I couldn't make him. I just left it at that.
Tuesday was his school performance, his dad PROMISED he would go, had his solicitor write to school and request tickets, we were only allocated two per child so I gave one of mine up expecting me to go on Monday and him Tuesday, he didn't show. Same last week with the youngest. They were so upset.
It's made me realise though. I'm not pushing this anymore. I've tried. All he does is let them down. If I could withdraw my application I would. Nothing will come of it, no matter what's ordered. Eldest won't come to me and in return the other two will be let down.
I think I'll just go to court and tell them exactly that.
I agree that you are concentrating your efforts where it's going to have the best effect - your eldest will hopefully come round in his own time, it may be years, but you need to concentrate on your younger children to make sure they aren't affected badly. I'd have a meeting with the school and tell them everything, that way they have a better understanding of what is going on, and thy can contact you earlier if anything needs doing, rather than leave it until punishment is needed. Hope you have a good christmas with your children.
Thats just shocking I had to fight to get a ticket for my sons nursery graduation, only to find out she didn't take him to the P1 open day (Im in Scotland). Thankfully the nursery had a word and I got to go but I have real concerns about his attendance. Anyway I think its awful for the kids to be let down like that I hope your situation improves good luck
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