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Guys,
I need some help and support.
The break up from my wife has caused me to start drinking excessively as it helps to block out the mess my life is in.
Its not the answer I know but that is where I am at this point in the process.
I have so much anger and heartache inside me as I am trying to stay strong that I verbally lash out at anyone trying to help me.
My best mate has said he needs a break from me now as I was so bad towards him on saturday night over a stupid misunderstanding and I blew it all up out of control. I have pleaded with him to forgive me but he now isnt responding to my calls or messages.
I really feel so lonely.
Help please.
Craig
Hi Craig,
Sorry to hear you aren't coping, but at least you have realised that you have a problem, If you are reaching for the bottle then maybe (and don't think I am saying you are an achoholic) attend an AA meeting, you don't have to be a alcoholic to attend, I think it's more about realising you need support and someone to talk to who has a similar issue.
I would also attend your doctor and explain how you are feeling and how it is effecting you, I'm sure a doctor would be able to suggest some local support groups.
Keep trying with your friend I'm sure that a break is all he needs.
Also talk here to off load we are all happy to listen (read)
GTTS
Hi Craig, I am going through and have been through a [censored] of a lot coping with the emotions of a family break up and not seeing my kids. I have been kept away from my kids 3 times in the last 24 months for lengthy periods of time the longest being 8 months and now at the moment up to 4 months and it is literally tearing my world and inside's apart. You cannot go to drink to help numb the pain, its the worst way forward and a route you will find it difficult to comeback from. What i started doing was going for long walks with a friend and just thinking about how my kids were feeling and how they would feel if they could see me spiralling into a world of no return. I scared myself by seeing how they would react if the inevitable happened and I was not there for them. Wondering where is daddy, why hasn't he fought for us...thats the questions they will ask when they get older and need answers.
I am nto sure where you are in the country, but i would be wiling to be a shoulder to listen and may converse to help you through this tough time...If you want send me an email on safarisid2012 at live.co.uk. [Edited by moderator to prevent email address being found by robots and spammed - no problem otherwise) my name is Neil and know what ur going through. Hi Moderator's i hope you dont mind me giving Craig some support and my email address. if it is wrong of me to post it on here then im sincerely sorry.
Anyway craig or look me up on facebook if you have it my name ns Neil adair
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