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Hello,
I'm a new first time father to my beautiful baby boy Dylan and I'm finding that he has a lot of of wind and he might be even colic.
We are using many things to solve this but I'm really finding it hard to cope with his constant crying, it makes me feel useless and I'm getting angry with myself and almost loosing my patience with my son.
I know its not his fault and there is nothing that he can do about it, but is there any advice that anyone can give as its ripping our relationship apart.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated,
:boohoo: :boohoo:
Hi,
So sorry to hear things are so tough for you. Have you got any family or friends that are close by that could help you with giving you some time to yourselves? It's very normal to find these things difficult to cope with & the main thing is making sure you get a bit of a break at this intense period. Do you feel like this is realistic? Is it mainly happening in the evening? The other thing is seeking advice from your health visitor or doctor, which you may have already done.
Hi fidicent,
Congratulations on Dylan's arrival. How old is he?
Infants have a few ways of communicating smiling, babbling, laughing and crying. Crying has to least popular of the these - it has evolved to be a noise that parents are unable to ignore.
By constant crying are you talking about hours and hours or a shorter period of time? Does he relent if you pick him up and comfort him?
You are not alone mate. Feel free to pop on here and rant if you feel your blood pressure rising.
Gooner
Hi what ways have you used to calm him down?
you could take him for walks in buggy
or even step a outside, my two used to love the outside
i used to sing and hum too simply talking helped to
i disagree with dummy's but you could try them if you haven't already
i used to love my two crying :). if your really suffering and have parents nearby use them 🙂
Tab
Unsure whose relationship is affected.
If wife, have [censored] to relieve tension.
With yr little one, buy Colease from the chemist...it was around a tenner if I recall correctly. Or get it from Dr.
My daughter was the same. We tried an infant powder too.. not as good as above.
I used to put her on shoulder and rub back whilst swaying to Chris Rea. CD.
Sometimes warm milk helped.
The situation improved after about three months.
I noticed that sitting in pushchair tended to make colic occur.
Hope that lot helps.
I found a short run out in the car or a lap around the block in the buggy usually worked to quieten my girl as a baby !
Not sure if it was the vibration or distraction but was always worth a shot!
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