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I have a 9yr old step daughter who doesn't want to come home because she scared of me as I keep shouting at her and telling her off and gave her negative comment when I should be giving positive she does have a illness and I need advice on how to get her to trust me and love again and not be that person that shout at her all the time and push her away from me.she does have an illness but I need to read more about her illness and try and understand more about her illness
You need to go to anger management as soon as possible - they will teach you to recognise why you are shouting and to recognise the signs before you even get to that stage, and to have strategies to deal with these signs.
I agree with actd. Anger management would be an excellent first step in recognising behaviour in yourself.
I would also suggest googling an association for the illness your SD has, you might be able to find some good resources to help you understand it a bit more. You might also find there are support networks for carers or parents of children with the condition.
I believe there is a reason behind your shouting to your step daughter. We didn't do things without reason. Whatever your reason for shouting you should deal with it. If you want to trust you by your step daughter then you should start treat her as if she is your own daughter.
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