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Hi guys
I'm a single mum with a 6 year old son. My son used to have a good relationship with my partner but for the last few weeks has totally rejected him and has basically told my partner he doesn't want him around anymore! I just don't get what is going on! he keeps telling him to go away and screams at him,This is causing problems in our relationship my partner has stopped coming over, he blames me, my partner hasn't said he wants to break up with me but we are hardly talking to eachother, I think my son wants all the attention, he's told me his real dad has told him he still loves me but I've make it very clear that we would never get back together, I just think son wants me to himself and gets jealous of my partner.
Should I break up with my partner? would that be in my son's best interest if he doesn't want him around?
Or should I try and fight and save my relationship with my partner?
I will be greatful for any response it's really affecting me I just don't know what to do it's a real mess.
hi,
sounds like a very tough time. I have a 6 year old daughter. May be married soon, so expecting these kinds of challenges. I can only assume that your son thinks your partner is a replacement for his dad, and maybe he feels scared and threatened by this.
how often does your son see his dad?
Thanks for your reply Bill337
Me and his dad have been split up for a long time his dad likes to play mind games sends messages through him tells him things like I won't speak him ( not true) things he's not happy with me about and recently he still loves me and doesn't understand why we broke up all bs but my son believes him
I have been with my partner for about 3 years he's been like a dad to my son we decided to take it slow for the sake of my son he's kept his place I've kept living at mine we have our own money my partner is kind with his he treats me and my son he's a nice bloke but he's getting fed up with my son attitude towards him and has stopped coming over I really think he's going to break up with me over it
My son would love to see his real father more but there are loads of issues with him plus he very rarely shows up for court order contact so it's impossible, he would love me and his father get on I've tried with his father gave him a email address to contact me if he's got issues but he would rather play his games
The relationship is really one only you can know as to whether it's worth fighting for, but if you are asking that question on here, then I think you probably already know the answer. If your ex has told your son that he still wants you back, then in your son's mind, that might still be the perfect solution, and that might be what his thinking is in his behaviour, however much you tell him it's not going to happen. I'm not sure what you can do to persuade your son otherwise, I'm afraid.
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