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Hello dad's
I really need some advice here please on my 9 year old daughters behavior, I had to go into her school because she had really hurt her best friend in school by scratching her because she didn't want to play with her, which I'm disgusted at what she did and why. The thing is I'm not convinced that my daughter realizes how serious this is and she lied to me about the whole story too. This is like the forth time now she has hit or been nasty to a child in school now so I think she is one chance away from getting expelled, she is only 9 🙁
I have been separated from her mum since she was about 1 but I have always been in my daughters life and gave her routine and stability, it is only since this latest incident in school that her mum has been honest about my daughters behavior at home with her, my daughter swears terribly at her mum and their house is like a battle ground a lot, her mum said when my daughter kicks off it can go on for hours and her mum thinks she has ADD or something but I'm not convinced, my daughter has never once swore at me she wouldn't dare, I'm strict but very fair with my daughter and don't smack her either. Don't get me wrong she tries with a bit of back chat but what kid doesn't. I put my foot down and that will be it. My daughter still sleeps with her mum which I don't agree with.
Another thing Is my I feel my daughter lacks social skills with other children, she likes to just play with one child and is very controlling and likes games to be played her way and doesn't like it if other kids don't do it her way.
I don't bring my daughter up to be a bully so after this last incident I feel I need any help and advice as possible. My daughter is better than this, she can be so loving and sweet and she is certainly not like the way she is at school and for her mum as she is for me.
My head is done in with it all, I think my daughter needs some sort of anger managent and help with her social skills but her mum is convinced she has ADD or something, where I'm not because if she did she would act the same for me surely.
Any help or advice these ways much appreciated fellas
Cheers
Robbie
Hi Robbie
I'm sorry to hear about your daughters situation, it does sound like she has something going on in the background that is effecting her behaviour. Have the school suggested any investigations? They are able to bring other agencies in to assess her and this would be important to get her added support and help In school. If its found that she has extra needs, the school would have to work with you and her and permanent exclusion wouldn't be a consideration, schools are not allowed to discriminate in this way when there are physical or emotional problems with a child.
I think it would be best to go and see your childs GP and ask for assessment to try and determine what the problem is. I understand your doubts, as her behaviour isn't an issue when she's with you, but if you are giving her more structure and boundaries this may make her feel more secure and less anxious...some children need this and perhaps she isn't getting it when with her mother.
If your ex isn't coping have you suggested that she stay with you for a while? This might be a solution in the short term, but it would give her mother a chance to recharge....if her home is a battleground she will be exhausted and less able to cope right now.
All the best
Thanks for the reply mojo
...I appreciate how difficult it can be to accept that our children have problems, but the sooner its looked at and your daughter given extra support, the better for her. She may not have ADD, but her behaviour does indicate that she is struggling emotionally, which if left, will only create more problems for her as she gets older.
I did reply mojo but not sure where it is
Are you seeing my full replies? They are not showing?
No...just one liners I'm afraid...apart from your first post.
Right hopefully you see all this
Sorry....seems there's a glitch! Are you using the reply or quick reply?
Tried both mate
I've managed to screen shot on one of my replies ha
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