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I have 3 children 2 boys age 6and 7 and one girl 4, generally well behaved, when the are not I usually find myself shouting at them and quite often without meaning to, I will grab them and end up hurting them or will do something to hurt them without mentally wanting to. I have tried so often to stop but only manage about a week. It's got to the point where my partner is saying that I will end up having to leave as my eldest son is starting to learn from me and that is the last thing I want. I need help to make this permanently stop but not sure where to turn.
Hi there
I think it's a good start that you've been able to recognise and admit to this, it can't have been easy.
You're right and this does need to stop before real damage is done and I think your first port of call should be your GP, they can refer you to anger management and perhaps some therapy/counselling would also help you.
Please do this sooner rather than later....once your partner sees you actively seeking help you may find that she is more supportive.
In the meantime, you must try and control the situation and I would advise that if you feel that you are starting to get angry, before the shouting starts, remove yourself from them and take a time out. Discuss a strategy with your partner, where you are able to let her know that your feelings are building so that she can take over and allow you to leave the room without the children having to be a party to it.
Good luck.
Thanks for your suggestions. My partner has mentioned anger management, but it is only with my kids, I have never felt anger towards any other adults or kids. Just to clarify, I have never left anything more than a red mark.
Still worth considering anger management - it's focus is to help you recognise the triggers that causes the anger and to have strategies to deal with it before it escalates.
It might be worth you looking into a parenting course too, It defo needs to be addressed if you are leaving red marks on your children I done a parenting course and it teaches you anger management and other ways of disciplining your children without harming then, using physical violence is a massive no no.
Hope you get something sorted
slim π
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