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I've had a right week of it, threats of violence, threats to kill, all in front of the kids, this has now resulted in a harassment order being issued. BUT..... My middle one has taken all the threats on board and now he's using the same against me and my partner, it's shocking. He threatened to stab me with a broken dc the other night.
I tell him off he laughs and says he's gonna get me killed, only what he's heard I guess.
He adamant he wants to move out and go live elsewhere. He's been horrific to my partner and it's just not fair on him anymore.
I'm not sure how much more of this violence from a child I can take.
Can anyone advise me? I've ha the police out a couple of times, they warned him.
Do I let him go? Do I run the risk of him being in non attendance at school like the eldest?
Do I leave and give my partner the easy life he so much deserves? I haven't even got anywhere to go!
I'm just at my wits end right now.
Hi Crocs
Sorry to hear things are getting so bad again, unfortunately there are no set steps you can take here.
Have SS had any further involvement?
You need to look after yourself right now and take some time to think and see what the next steps could be, possibly look into some counselling for you or joint sessions involving the children and possibly your partner?
I'm sorry I don't have more answers for you but we are here to vent at and will give as much support to you as we can.
Hi Crocs
I can only agree with Yoda. Looking at the choices you face, if you leave your partner, everyone is worse off and it doesn't really improve the situation between you and your son. If you stay with your partner (which is what I assume you both want), then you can support each other and you may have to make a difficult decision regarding your son being kept out of the house (and if you leave your partner, that happens anyway, so it's not as if there's a way to keep him there). You really have to put yourself first here and then try to work everything possible into that situation, but accept that for some things, there isn't a solution within your power.
Thanks guys!
I'm defo going to look into the councelling. Breaks my heart when I see pics of all my friends kids and how well behaved they are etc, mines like a feral animal at the minute.
I've had an apology this morning and he told me he loved me but every other word is effing this or effing that!
Point blank refuses to apologise to my partner so all privileges have been withdrawn.
He started high school this week and loves it which is a positive, even thinks him form tutor whose been there forever who looks a meat head is amazing.
Tough stuff this parenting!
yeah, some tougher than others - you can only do so much, he has to realise that it's in his benefit to behave civilly towards you for his benefit as well as yours.
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