[Solved] How do I stop being "shouty"?

He set a garage on fire last night.
I've had enough. I drove him to the police station but they wouldn't speak to as no officers available.
This morning he's climbed out of the window.
I've phone the duty team at childrens services.
I'm actually at my wits end with this.
It's making me ill. It's causing the other two children problems. Work are sick of me having time off. My relationship is on the line.
I can't even describe his behaviour. Complete defiance. Absolutely does not give two shits about anything. He's kicked a door off and hit me.
Social services were no help.
He rang dad even though I explained to dad the situation and would appreciate some back up all he could manage was "I'll come up there and kick her head in if she shouts at you again"
I need some help.

I'm at a loss here - you need to keep on at social services and tell them that you cannot cope possibly to the extent that he needs to be fostered temporarily (if that's possible) for the protection of your other children. If he's set the garage on fire, then that may be an offence, I think the police not having an officer available is not acceptable - I'd call them to the house rather than going to the station, but this is all really trying to clear up after the situation has occurred - children's services need to give you help to get his behaviour under control.

I know it sounds awful, especially coming from a mum, but care crossed my mind.
I actually can't take anymore.- I've endured name calling, threats, banging doors, banging windows, I asked dad for support and was told where to go.
I'm desperate, it's not fair on the others, on my partner or on me. I want to do my best, I'm tryin so hard.

I don't think it's awful - you need help and a break, even if only for a short while, may be enough for you both to take a breather.

Spoke to social services who basically told me to sling it, her words were "you need to get a grip and stop ringing us, what do you expect us to do? Our file is closed on this now"

Have you tried the TYS (targeted youth support) for your area?

it might be worth contact women's aid - they are a charity, so hopefully more helpful than social services seem to be

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Im absolutly furious today, just had the duty sw on, this is the 4th one in 10 months.
She cant see why the eldest cant go back to dad?
They arent happy hes currently staying at my mums house (so he can get to school!!!!) as its not a permanet base for him (it is if he wants it to be)
We get to see him every night, contact between the siblings has been established and not witheld like it was when he was at dads and hes settling fine, when i feel hes ready he can move schools. I just feel the time isnt right now.
She wasnt having any of it.
In the end she was off to speak to her manager and read the file! Maybe if she had done this before hand she would see my point!
He didnt even turn up at court yesterday to dispute the prohibited steps.
Surely SS cant remove him from my mums if hes settled there for the time being, not give the order I have?

I can't see that Childrens services would go against a court order unless that had a [censored] good reason to do so, so I would say it's not likely, and I would think they'd have to go to court anyway to argue why the court order shouldn't stand.