[Solved] hi i need some serious advice

Mate sounds like a really hard situation to be in - The fact that you want to be a good dad makes you a pretty good dad in my books. Why doesn't you partner trust you with you son? What kind of things do you try to do and what does she say in responce.

Why not sign up to the dad pledge on this site - you can show her what you've signed up to and show her the site and the kind of info and support it offers. The Pledge sends you daily small emails that give ideas and advice to help us be better dads practically, i really like them esp thursdays and fridays and they give me some great ideas for the weekend and things to do with my kids or as a family. I can also start conversations withthe wife about stuff to do with the kids like discipline and self esteem, it shocked her the first few time that i not only knew this stuff but had thought about her and the kids whilst i was at work!!

MAte re shouting infront of your son - i think its better not to - if you both are feel het up then tell her that your anger managment cousellor has given you tips to stop this ie walk away and calm down or agree to discuss it later when the boy is in bed. He needs to see you working together as team and know you love or at least respect oneanother. Talk to your counsellor and ask him/her for some tips that you can take home and give to your wife. And say she needs to agree to them or whats the point in going to get help if she's not going to support you walk things out ?

At the end of the day walk away form agruements and tell her you'll come back to discuss it at a more approprate time also why not take you son out to the park or soft play area with out your partner - boys need 1-2-1 dad time. He'll love it and you'll feel free to be yourself.

let me know how it goes bro. 🙂

Ive been going through the same thing with my wife but i think im coming out the other side now. I know that my wife has the best intrests of our babies (ive got twins) at heart and to be honest she probably does know the correct way to care for a baby but like you it used to drive me mad cos i never seem to be doing the right thing and she made me aware of it. I think the best thing i did was to stay calm, easier said than done i know because we were both extremely tired but we did both start to understand this and as quick as an argument would flare up it would also be forgotten about, when it was more difficult to forget about was if i said something particulary nasty. people said to me that women change when they have babies, they have to i suppose, but if you stand your ground and say just say every thing in calm way i think it helps. also I came to this site cos i was having my own problems and it does help to have people who are in a similar situation so if you want to chat more drop me a line

sir I have great empathy for you in regards to your situation. If I can add my two pennies worth
the issue in which you are experincing is in the area of trust. Your self plus your partner What I suggest is that you and her must put the young mans needs first set clear agreed do`s and don`t when parenting your child because this young man will internalize what eveer behaviour patterns
he see`s his parent doing this will form his emotional base for his future behaviour in similar situations. here are some facts from 0 to 7 a child formulate emotional behaviour patterns that dictate for the rest of their life. So it is very important that you and your partner come to some form of compramise. It also sounds like she has some deep resentment with your interaction with your boy? she may need reassurence (I don`t know Why) that you mean him no harm. Perhaps your play may be to forceful. And sir for your own good health when a woman is pregnant the level of
irrationality and insecurity increases. Personlly if I was face with issue of that sort I would try to recognise areas that would cause confilct then try to defuse it by my own respose to the givern situation. ps I also think relationship and parenting support is needed here.