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Hi all I’m new to this forum and looking for some advice.
To start off iv been through court represented my self and battled off all the false allegation and have neen given everything I wanted I have a court order stating I have my child every other weekend and every Wednesday of every week and specified pickup and drop off points ect ect.
The problem is my ex seems to think its ok to disregard this and book some of her holidays over my weekends without any discussion or agreement beforehand. Iv always accommodated any holidays that fall on my Wednesdays. Basically ill receive an email stating ….. Just to let you know iv booked a holiday on Xday and ill return on Xday you can pick her up then.
Iv tried to explain multiple times she can’t just do this and should be agreeing these things before booking anything over each other’s time just as I do with her as I to make plans over my weekends.
Her attitude will then just be like it or lump it I have to choose an alternative weekend I’m her primary carer. Or call our child and tell her why im not allowing her to go away and the new one is I can travel 300+ miles to a location that is not our pickup point if I still want her on my weekend. Iv always just swapped my weekend because of this and would never stop my chilled going away and Tobe honest I don’t have a problem with swapping weekends we both need to make compromises it’s the principle of been told iv got to rearrange my plans without any agreements or given the same curtesy I give her. I just don’t understand why she can’t ask for a swap and thinks she can do as she likes Can anyone give any advice where I go from here I just fed up off been classed as a second class parent and still been walked over even tho we have an order in place I just want amicability
Thanks
J
hi,
unfortunately court can not cover every aspect of court order. they just expect both parents to be flexible. if court order states that kids live with mum then, she is allowed to take kids on holiday abroad up to period of a month. but your right, she should not be disregarding your time with kids. so i guess you either have to try reason with her or put up with her difficult behaviour. would be a pain to go back to court over it.
Thanks Bill the thing is this was all discussed in court as she used to do this all the time pre court and she was told by the judge she needs to discuss these matters first and both agree. It just seems like still it's one rule for me and one for her now the courts are no longer involved.
I'm aware of the month holiday rule clause but she would still need my written consent to take out the country and she would still be breaching the order by not makeing our child available on my given day without agreement. Obviously I'd need a good reason to stop that however IV alays been flexible and wouldn't. IV only ever asked for discussions first so I don't make plans on a day we could potentially swap. In this instance I had already made plans on my weekend she has booked something
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