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Thank you for encouraging me to persist in my efforts. I've continued to stay on course and explained the situation to CAFCASS during the Section 7 report.
I'm now in the waiting phase, and I'll have to see how things unfold. It's been tough, especially with her mother now putting an order in to remove all contact with my daughter. Despite the challenges, I still remain positive. Because without hope, what's the point?
I am choosing to remain hopeful, understanding that what will be, will be. Your reminder to focus on the things I can control resonated.
It's a reassurance that, ultimately, I have the reins of my own life.
Best regards,
Less Stressed Dad
@felix5 hello - that’s very encouraging to read. Thank you for letting me know. Onwards and upwards.
Best regards 😊
hang in there felix
you've been through a tough time and all you can do is your best for your daughter.
Hi I totally feel your pain I’m going through a very similar situation at the Moment in November my daughter told her dad is hit her which I hadn’t and I got arrested anyway to cut a long story short social services got involved I’ve had a nfa from police and social have no safeguarding issues but he won’t give me my children back I have allowed for a c100 and just waiting for CAFCASS to ring me and directions hearing is on the 19th of February I’ve never been in this situation before so don’t know what to expect it’s been the worst 3 months of my life I’ve only seen my children for 4 hours in 3 months and they lived with me there whole lives hope you get the outcome you want keep fighting ☺️
My advice to you is, it's going to get worse before it gets better.
If you haven't had the first hearing and he is already doing this then you are in for a long fight.
I recommend getting a good solicitor because fighting this on your own is going to be hard.
Otherwise just put yourself first, let the process happen, and just try and live your life. I know you don't want to hear it but life carries on...
Your daughter will realize in the long run.
I am sorry.
I need to share the latest developments in the CAFCASS report.
The CAFCASS officer appears to have taken my daughter's statements at face value without delving into them more deeply.
The recommendations is that I should have no in person contact with my daughter until reconstructive family work is completed, upon the mother's agreement.....
The officer did acknowledge that daughter had been coached, but that daughter's views were too deeply entrenched. The conclusion drawn was that allowing contact in the current circumstances would be more harmful and that judge should respect daughters wishes not to see me which is madness.
What is worse is that there were no issues in our relationship until these unfounded allegations emerged. Social services said NFA, the judge said contact should resume but carcass officer recommends no contact.
The officer did not take the time to explore the depth of my daughter's claims, just accepted them. What about the 10-year relationship we had? What about the weekends and holidays which were filled with good times, trips to the beach, movie nights, playing games?
My daughter wrote a letter to the judge, describing me in an extremely negative light and completely praising the mother. This only intensifies my fears of parental alienation, a concern dismissed by the officer.
Despite keeping the focus on the children during the interview, the officer said I was angry towards the mother. I never once said anything derogatory. I only expressed my genuine worry about the children being alienated from me and voiced the need for more stability and routine in their lives. Unfortunately, these concerns were misconstrued as hate.
The frustration I feel is debilitating; my voice is not being heard.
When will this nightmare come to an end?
Can you please provide an update. I am now going through something very similar?
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