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Hey everyone I have a 7 year old daughter who is missing her mother especially at night, my wife and I seperated not long ago. She still sees her mother on the weekends but She is so sad its heart breaking, I've tried to validate her feelings and let her know its okay to feel that way when someone you love isn't around but I don't know what to do or say to help her get through it or used to it. If anyone has any helpful advice I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks
Hi there
It must be so hard for her at the moment, she's had to deal with the separation and the loss of her mother, it's almost like a bereavement for her.
Have you spoken to her Mum about this? Could she phone/Skype her at bedtime just to make a connection? It might be a good idea to speak to the school about what is happening, they can support her with pastoral care and someone that she can talk to about her feelings, which might help.
There are a number of books available that are designed to help children cope with stressful and upsetting situations, this might help you both to have an open dialogue about it, you could read together and then talk about the story and how ishe can relate to it.
You might like to think about getting her a pet, something that she has responsibility for, that would take her mind off how sad she is... having something small and defensless to care for might help her to connnect with her own feelings.
Apart from seeking some counselling via your GP, there's little more that you can do, apart from lots of love and reassurance, which I'm sure you are already providing for her.
All the best
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