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Morning guys,
Not too sure if I am posting this in the right area.....
Had my kids last night and we were all chilling out on the sofa's catching up as you do and then my son asked if were having christmas dinner at mine or going to my parents....
I looked at him with a somewhat surprised face and asked him what he meant by christmas dinner. Their mother has told them that they will be coming to me on christmas day and she will spend boxing day with them.
I am over the moon by this of course but frustrated that she hasn't spoken directly to the children about this arrangement and not mentioned to me.
What I cannot understand is that why would she be so willing to allow the children to be with me on christmas day as it will be the first christmas as a seperated family. In previous years we have always stayed at home and her mother would join us for the day as she is now on her own.
The kids tell me that their mum is planning on having christmas dinner with her mother but I cannot get my head around the fact that she is so willing not to spend the day with the children. All seems very odd from my side although I am not knocking it.
I don't know if it is because she has an element of guilt for what she has done to me or that she just wants a quiet day with her mother. I expect it is the latter and her mother has probably suggested they go out for dinner and to get me to have the kids to keep the cost down for her 🙂
...it's strange and I would seek clarification from her about this arrangement. Christmas is all about the kids and getting to spend the day with them is a bonus, whatever the reason!
This is exactly where I am coming from.
Just seems very strange that she doesn't want to spend christmas day with the children. It does lead me to think that there is someone else on the scene (although I have never been able to prove it) and maybe this is the reason why she doesn't want the kids..... Christmas day with her new partner on the QT?!!
Hi Mate,
As NJ says don't knock it but get some clafication as to what is happening from her.
Until you have some I wouldn't spend too much time trying to work out why she has done this just enjoy having your kids at christmas.
GTTS
I offered my ex the kids at Xmas. From a mums point of view, I guess I did it because my eldest lives with him and I have the younger two, I wanted them to be together, he said no and I ended up having to pick the eldest up at 9am Xmas day morning for a couple of hrs, it was pretty [censored]. Mine are quite young and I still wanted it to be special for them. If they were old I guess I wouldn't mind what they wanted to do.
Maybe she's asked them??
Good on you if you get them, enjoy!
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