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Hello
Finding myself in a bit of a pickle. Recently been informed by a girl I saw this Summer that she's expecting my son and he'll be born 9th March in Austin since she left London to move back home.
I'm a new Londoner, just moved here a year ago from Denmark. So, when she told me today that she's expecting me to cover parental test (or come for the birth and get a lab test at the hospital he's born in) AND have to pay 20% of my net salary (according to Texas law) I almost fainted.
Does anyone know what my legal rights are?
In Denmark the monthly child support is in the area of zero to a few hundred GBP depending on the dads involvement.
She's telling me that if I want my name on my sons birth certificate I will have to support her which I'm fine with. But paying 20% of my net salary and paying to prove myself that I'm the dad when she's ambushing me like this seems wrong. It's entirely her decision that she wanted to keep the child. She has sent proof that she's pregnant and we've had a few decent convos about it.
Hope for a bit of advice! Thanks!!
Hi,
Am not familiar with American laws, but would suggest you to try to make private arrangement with her, that's if child is definitely yours.
Under UK CMS, she could claim you are the father, and you'd have to pay maintenance, unless you disputed you are the father, in which case, you would have to pay for the DNA test, and potentially be refunded if it proves you are not the father and for 1 child, you pay 12% of gross. It might be worth getting some professional legal advice and potentially open a case yourself with CMS - it may be that the US courts wouldn't override that order, but you'd need professional advice to verify if that's the case or not.
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