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Thought I would share this
My 14 year old was tidying his room the other day so he could have a friend round - he emerged aftr three hours with 7 empty glasses (not all his), two house phones (apparently put there by someone else, two large bin bags and about £15 richer
How can I make him keep his room tidy without the need to scream at him every week!!!
Or have I set my expectations too high?
I can still make my 13 year old tidy her room, but when my older daughter was 16, I didn't have much chance really, so your story sounds very familiar.
Strangely, my older daughter has just gone to university, and she tells me she is eating proper food, keeping her room tidy and washing up after herself. 😮
I know your pain mate.
My 15 yo daughters room is such a mess and getting her to clear it up is impossible.
No word of a lie - it looks like a bomb has gone off in there.......
I used to go through the pain of asking her to clean the room, followed by demanding that she cleaned her room and finally in desperation going up with a rubbish bag and telling her that I was going to do it (which would finally do the job).
Now I have got to the point that it is just not worth the hassle. If she wants her room to look like somewhere that a pig would refuse to stay then that is up to her - she is 15 and is more than capable of cleaning it.
I have been contemplating taking some photo's and posting them on facebook for the world to see - maybe the embarrassment might prompt her into a cleaning fit - though somehow I doubt it.
Gooner
I have been contemplating taking some photo's and posting them on facebook for the world to see - maybe the embarrassment might prompt her into a cleaning fit - though somehow I doubt it.
Gooner
You know, you probably have an idea there for a popular website. 😆
The only problem is that the idea would backfire as kids would probably compete to have the untidiest room. 🙁
The website idea crossed my mind as well www.mykidsbedroom.co.uk or similar
Do you think there would be a call for it ?
Gooner
Great idea gooner
It probably won't motivate them at all, but at least it'll give parents a chuckle 😀
I think it's a great idea - if nothing else, chances are you'll find someone else who's kids bedroom are worse than yours 😆
I gave up trying to get my kids to tidy their rooms. My daughter's just gone to uni and says she's keeping everything tidy in her new room!
If I needed to go into her room to hoover for instance, I'd just pick up everything off the floor and throw it in the wardrobe. Occasionally she'd get the cleaning bug and do it herself, but those times were few and far between. Far better to just keep the bedroom door closed so at least you don't have to look at it when passing it takes willpower, but you will get used to it eventually and it saves all the arguments and bad feeling.
Biggest problem we had was that quite often there was food left in her room - and one of our dogs can open doors 😆
In fact, now she's off at university and her room is clear, the dog still goes in occasionally just in a vague hope there's something interesting in there.
My son had a friend round for a sleepover - told him room needed to be tidied and he obliged (no arguments) and even hoovered, dusted and emptied bin!!
Thinking of inviting his friend round regularly
My son had a friend round for a sleepover - told him room needed to be tidied and he obliged (no arguments) and even hoovered, dusted and emptied bin!!
Thinking of inviting his friend round regularly
Sounds like a plan. My daughters room is so messy we're considering moving home..........
Maybe we should start posting photo's of the bedrooms on the site 😯
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