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Happy new year folks!
Not the best of starts, been in hospital with my youngest since Monday whose had surgery to her eye, hopin to be home this weekend and she's doing really well.
In the meantime ex has begrudgingly taken the middle one to his (only since Wednesday), last night he was seen in the town centre at 10.30pm! He's 10. Now am I just not picking here or is that too late? He was with his brother whose 12, my point is, this is why when he's been and he comes back he has this "do what I want" attitude. His dad thinks it's fine.
Crocs......
Oh boy!.... I feel so desperately sorry for your kids (especially the eldest) everytime I read about some new development in this saga with your ex.
I never thought I'd say this (of course ever mindful of the fact that we are only hearing from one side, and we do not know what started this whole sorry state of affairs), but I am sad to say that it may be time to start thinking of documenting all these issues with a view to excluding this man from access to your younger kids.
You really want to try and prevent these kids from developing the serious behavioural issues which will move on to legal issues.
How you start that ball rolling is for other more experienced folk to advise on here.
I certainly would not be happy with my 12 and 10 year old kids to be hanging about without parents or other very responsible adults in the evening.... or indeed at any time of the day.
Hey Crocs
Sorry to hear this on top of the hospital! Hope they are on the mend now.
That's not acceptable time to be in town for either of the children at that age. You certainly need to be documenting this, raising it with Cafcass and adding it to your statement. Sadly, I think the only way forward without cutting dad out is to request supervised contact until he can prove that he can keep the children safe in his care.
Completely agree... It's wholly inappropriate for children to be out that late and it's asking for trouble nod I would certainly do as 1626 suggests and start documenting these events and informing the authorities/court about the situation.
Would you believe me if I told you the police ha visited dads regarding the eldest, apparently he broke into his high school last week with some other kids, his name was thrown forward but the police are still in with enquiries.
I'm seeing social worker this week, Tuesday, even though the report should be filed by Tuesday!!
I'm definitely on for supervised contact with this. It's defo for the best!
Definitely too young to be out on their own at that time - my daughter is 16 and I'm only really just starting to allow her out at that time on her own, and even then I want to know where she's going beforehand and she knows I can track her phone.
Kids nowadays..
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