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Hello SadDad2019,
This has obviously been a very difficult situation for you, and of course since you wrote your original post things may have moved on. Like all the other people that have commented, anger versus anger is not helpful to anyone, especially for yourself and your son. Keep a record of all communications you have with him, or try to have with him, for example birthday cards, letters etc, so that one day when he is older he will always know that you did your very best to keep communication open with him. Helping yourself would be a positive thing for you too, perhaps in the form of counselling to talk to someone outside of your family and friends about how stressful the situation is/was. Having anger stored inside you can be damaging to your health and well being, and to those around you. In the long term if you have done as much as you can to keep communication open and do things the right way, then you will have peace of mind that you know you did all you could in keeping some sort of relationship going with you son.
Parent Support Volunteer, Fegans
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