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MY son is 16 and i cant find him on social media
As previous , and it’s hard but if you want to see your kid don’t resort to violence . Even sending texts etc that could be see as harassment or Threats will
Land you in bother with the police.
Have you reported your concerns about abuse to the police ? They will have to investigate and they’ll get social services involved so maybe they will be able to bring to light what’s going on and that will help you going forward .
If you think it’s hard now , it’ll be beyond worse if you go chucking right handers about
As others have said, don’t resort to violence... that’s also not setting a good example to your son. Your son is 16 will make some life choices, so you need to step up and rise above it... always make sure you send birthday card, Xmas card presents etc recorded delivery and signed for... it will prove you still care and think of him...at some point he’ll look at it different through life experiences and he will ask questions. He may even want a roof over his head from you and that’s where you come in and provide..
If you have concerns then call the police or speak to social services immediately, don’t wait..make a diary of events.
Speak to someone for sure and help with your pain...
It is normal to have an occasional strong emotional response to something. I always repeat this quote to myself:
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
― The Dalai Lama
Hi,
I would encourage you to do all you can to not get angry and instead develop coping mechanisms as this will help with your son in the long term.
It is normal for a father in law to take his daughters side and I had this and I got angry.
Try and use dialogue and reason.
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