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I feel my anger could get the better of me soon
Because not only is my EX alienating my son against me but the grandfather is as well
He always had beef with me when I was with my EX he never liked me
So after we split he joined in alienating my son against me
My son as purposely had his name stripped and I've been blocked from knowing my sons secondary school all to control me.
I'll be very surprised that i'll ever see my son again with the amount of brainwashing that as been put on him about me
I feel like i want to go round his house and give him a good beating - Not so much for the beef i have for him but more for the harm he is doing to my son.
He is a child abuser and he is being left to it - I was screwed over by the family court and can no longer assist me - So my only option is to do him harm to my protect my son.
This can easily get out of control my anger is getting stronger by the day
Any advice please
My first bit of advice would be to take deep breaths and not do anything you will later regret. I have had to live through months of lies, I sometimes i feel I am at the end of my tether. But I never let if beat me and fight on.
Why can they court no longer help you? Can you not apply for a child contact order? Have you attempted mediation a all?
Have you thought about sending your son a letter with your contact details on and reach out to him?
hi,
no do not resort to violence. you will only screw up your life and possibly be banned from seeing your child permanently. contact your local social services, if you think your ex and her partner are being abusive to your child. how old is your son? maybe he is on social media, and you can try search for his details, and make contact.
As said, do not resort to violence, you'll end up in court (or worse) and your opinion will no longer be credible.
I would seriously consider counselling for anger management, it's not that your reasoning is wrong, it's just how you deal with it.
My son is sixteen so I can no longer apply for an order - If I could go court again I wouldn't because I think the family courts are useless. They just let the mother run riot / Break orders without any consequences.
I've also applied for mediation a few in the past and my EX refused
I currently have a order in place on till my boy is 18 for no contact
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