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I was a new dad only 3 day ago but i have found myself getting angrier and angrier with people. non of these feelings are reflected in how i feel about baby or my wife but usually total strangers. to the fact tonight some drunk lad was gobbing of to this young woman and i squared strait up to him and almost relished the idea of him starting a fight. is this normal? and has anyone else felt like this.
Hi Stan,
Three days ago your life changed for ever.
You are now a man with responsability.
These other people do not know of, or the mangitude of this responsability and you will now be seeing the world through different eyes.
Every situation you see will now be influenced by this and you will no doubt be feeling somewhat confused and protective in some situations as you come to terms with your news and responsabilities.
Be gentle on yourself as you come to terms with it but do remember that you are now also a role model to your children and conduct yourself in a manner by which you can proudly explain to your children as they grow up or when they are older.
I think these feelings will pass and your emotions will settle.
Be that man which you wish your chidlren to know you as.
Regards,
Dave
I completely agree with Dave but I would just like to add that as you have recognised it as a potential problem you are better placed to start doing something about it.
If you find yourself in a similar situation just remember Daves last sentence...." Be that man!"
I agree. If you aren't sure, the best person to share it with is your wife so she knows how you feel, and you can decide whether it's something you can manage yourself, or whether you want outside help. As Mojo says, you've recognised it now, which is a big part of managing it.
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