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Eldest was taken to hospital yesterday. He's been in lots of trouble at school and at home with the police. Incidents like, pulling a chair from under a teacher, throwing books, leaving school, calling a teacher names, smashed a car head light, stole a bike.
He made a threat to kill himself but later told SW this was to get out of detention. SW told dad if he was concerned I take him to hossi.
So he did. Now he's self diagnosing ADHD. CAMHs is bein fast tracked.
Whilst I can appreciate he does have some characteristics of ADHD I'm not convinced. I still feel this is all down to no boundaries.
I sat with the family support worker yesterday (she's very nice btw!) she's seen straight through dad after I showed her his emails and the games he plays.
We worked out that with eldest getting himself up for school, getting home to an empty house, going straight out and not coming home till late, he isn't really gettin an adult interaction apart from at school. How lonely must that be for him?
We have a child in need meeting planned next week, they are concerned about how fast he's deteriorating, not in just his behaviour but also his appearance. This will be the third meeting dad has refused to attend. I'm struggling to see why he actually live with him. He won't attend meetings about his welfare, he's asked me to take him to CAHMS, he won't communicate about important issues with regards to the hossi and police (I had to ring both myself to find out what had gone on after he planted the seed) and he's refusing contact with the other two! From what I have so far I reckon I have a pretty good reason to get this case reopened in court, what's anyone else's opinion?
Hi Crocs
I would think so, especially as you have the fsw on board.
I'm so sorry things have escalated since the hearing 🙁
Is the family support worker court assigned Crocs? If so then I would think she has the power to return this to court....might be something you can discuss with her.
In the circumstances I would say that it's just as well that he isn't having contact with your other two children, the less influence he has with them the better!
Thanks.
Yes it's court ordered NJ, it does actually say in the order that she can bring it back to court. I'll bring it up with her. She did actually ask me if I'd be taking it back which I found strange.
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