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Dear Friends,
In short...Contact order in place, mother has decided to stop contact on the basis of a completely false, unfounded and made up accusation. She is accusing me of being a heavy drinker...!?!?!
I occasionally share one bottle of rose with my partner at a weekend and never when I'm in the care of my daughter (who stays over every other weekend, she is 2yrs old).
I am also in the process of applying back to court for an enforcement order, because she isn't following the order at all. As we are bound to end up back in court I have the following concerns which I hope someone can help me with...
a) Will her accusation effect the current order?
b) She is 150 miles away, hence every other weekend stay for my daughter, if she now changes her commitment to this order, will the judge stop the overnight stays?
c) She agreed to 3 weeks a year that I could have my daughter for holidays amongst other positive benefits for my daughter. Will the judge now stop these things?
Any help is very much appreciated,
Thank you, John
Hi John and welcome.
The court won't normally reduce contact unless there are good reasons to do so, and that isn't the case here. As a matter of thought - how can your ex possibly know what you you drink if she lives so far away?
Hi actd,
Exactly, how does she know...?...simple truth is she doesn't and is just making up a fat lie to curtail contact and even stop it all together.
The deeply concerning part of all this is, "she" agreed to sharing travel, holidays, rotation of birthdays/Christmas family events etc...
I posted a couple of weeks ago and now I'm on the journey of an enforcement order, to hopefully maintain some consistency for the future. But she is very clever, when she doesn't like something (like finding out I have new partner), the shutters fly up with contact...but equally...she says in any correspondence, she wants me to play an active role in my daughters life...I never know which way turn.
While we await the next court date and remember I've been having full weekends, she says I can pop see her for a few hours on a Saturday, but it's a 7hr round trip. Please don't misunderstand I would travel the ends of the earth for my daughter, but it's not practical and the order is already in place to help with the distance.
I just don't know what to do...
John
I've done the regular 7 hour round trips - every alternate weekend for a couple of years, so I know just how exhausting it can be. However, I'd stick at it until you get to court because the courts will appreciate that you are making the effort, but I'd certainly be pushing the point that it simply isn't practical compared to any agreement you had that she's not sticking to.
I was pretty sure that was going to be your response about the drinking - and that's something you can hint at to the court.
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