Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hey guys,
I have a 3 year old girl, Mollie. she's just turned 3 and she's bright as anything but her behaviour is a little inconsistant between being with her mum and being with me. This manifests itself when i drop her off after spending time with her (she lives 200 miles away and i can only AFFORD to go see her once a month in which time she comes here for about a week depending on what time off i can get from work).
she's "perfect" when she's with her and I consider her to be a well behaved child when she's here. She has, over the last week, told me that her nanna bought her a dummy which she didn't amongst other things which i sat her down and told her that it's not nice to say things if they're not happening.
Now, when she goes home i am being told that she is shouting, being "hyper" and generally misbehaving for days on end (oddly enough this starts when i'm not there) despite me dropping her off and her being fine!
The main reason i'm concerned is that my ex doesn't tell me right away, she doesn't communicate so how can i make sure i'm doing the right thing? what if she picks things up when she's here that i don't see? (i'm not a tempered person).
Is there anyone else who has had this sort of issue? Is it totally normal? My ex doesn't seem to want to know unless it's MY fault, i'd just like to be re-assured that this could just be down to missing me or changing environments / testing waters.
I'm currently seeking a court order because every time this happens she threatens to restrict access to nothing! despite me trying logically, sympathetically and realistically to UNDERSTAND what's going on.
Thanks,
Rik.