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So I´m wondering if someone has experience or advice on this. Hope this is the right place on the new forum. 🙂
Short background
My son is 2 1/2 years old. He did start speaking when he was about 1 old but the basics, mama, dada, fell, and so on. Then he stopped and about a year ago he went to have his ears checked and they where both blocked and he had to have "pipes" inserted into them. (sorry English is a second language).
But since then he dosent talk, he will make a bunch of sounds like brrrr for cars, ugh for surprising and other more sounds but no words.
We are working with the kindergarten they have a feeling he is just "downloading" and will talk when ready, he is going back to check his ears and to see a therapist.
He is really strong and they tested him this summer like a ability test. He scored on a three year old level on everything from understanding, movement, spacial awareness and more. But nothing on speech (ofc)
He seems to be smart as well he understands if I say ok diaper change or time to go to sleep. He will jump up and run to his bed or changing station. If I say we are going out he will get his clothes and we help him get dressed. We also tested him with his Paw partol teddy bears. He will line them up and point and stare at us until we say the name of the dog. But we tried to say the wrong name and he just looked backed at the dog he was pointing at and grunted. Then pointed "harder" and grunts.
He is loving, loves to play fight, he is a prankster he will tease us and so on. He will pretend to fall a sleep and then when we walk out he will laugh and stand up throw the pillow at us. He will even pretend to snore.
One time he was pulling a fischer price oven on top of him pretend to be stuck and then push it back up. After about 8 times I said "no stop doing that" he looked at me and the oven. Then pulled it down on him. Looked at me for "help" I said "stop it" with a grin and he then pretended to be unable to push it off him. Then looked at me started laughing and pushed it back up.
So I´m not really worried that he is autistic or something major wrong. But it is concerning. What would you recommend to do or help him start speaking? Have you experienced a similar thing?
Thank you so much
Hi I'm afraid I don't have any personal experience - I would say speak to your GP and ask if they have concerns or what the referral routes are?
Definitely see your GP, they can advise on tests. Could be Einstein syndrome, named after Albert Einstein, who was a late starter 🙂
Hi there
There’s no set time for children to start talking, my own daughter developed a language all her own, that only her older brother (only 13 months older) could understand, but around the age of three she just started talking with full sentences.
I would purse the hearing situation, the fact that both ears were blocked might have had an impact on his speech development, but I’m sure if you share your concerns with the GP or Health Visitor, they can monitor him and refer him to speech and language development if necessary.
Apart from speaking to the professionals, the best thing you can do is not to get too anxious about it, children do pick up on anxiety, I’m sure things will work out.
All the best
Hello Dad1981, How is your son doing with his speech now?I would like to add that, my son was discovered to be deaf and had to have grommets fitted in his ears to release the fluid that had built up. His speech was affected but not his understanding. He didn't talk properly until he was about four. He had excellent speech therapy assistance from the NHS in England and also a speech therapist saw him in his reception class when he was 4.5 years. He was then signed off and is now nearly 20 with no lasting effects. I just wanted to encourage you to say that with the right support it can work out. Reading books with your child is one of the best things you can do if you're able to. Plus there are good online resources which will assist you in this too. Kind Regards, Fegans PSV
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