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Guys - my 11 year old has just started blowing a gasket everytime something doesn't go his way... Whenever, we make a comment we get a whatever, or something muttered under his breath, banging doors and stomping around... I've chatted to him about school, and he saying everything is good, i don't think anyone is bullying him or anything. Nothing has really changed at home - apart from the snow! I feel at a loss to know what to do... You go from sending him to his room to having it out with him, but neither seems to work. I had a good chat with him the other night and he had a cry about his brother winding him up (but no more than is normal we would say)... Is this puberty me thinks? Or something deeper - cos I'm at a loss and knackered by the level of intervention - it feels like having a toddler again..
Thanks, Ron
Sounds like good old fashioned hormones to me Ron.
It's all down here from now on 😆
does it feel like this ? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jil6Or1Mtbc
It will get worse before it gets better......
Try not to lose your temper and remember its not personal - he has just the ability to think rationally. My 13 yo daughter has been like this for 2 years 🙄
🙂 Argh! I thought we had another couple of years before we hit this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi
Out of curiosity is he going to secondary school or is he in the last year of primary?
As I always notice a change in secondary school kids, with there appearance,
language, hobbies etc.
JJ
Hi Ronaldo,
Sounds like you got to the teenage years a little early.........no problem our articles section on Dadtalk can be very helpful in most parenting situations.
Have a look at Communicating with teenagers for some tips.
and as Babelfish says don't take it personally ......oh yeah good luck keep us posted.
I have a 12 year old who knows everything it all, is starting to answer us back and is either incredibly grumpy or annoying happy - not sure which I prefer!
I need to stop arguing with him but I find it really tough.
I try to play badminton with him once a week just to spend some 1-2-1 time and that is great!!
But it is difficult!!
Good luck Ron
What you did Daddy Super Mario is the best thing... if your kid does not want to open up..don't push too much..you might be trespassing his privacy and see you as an intruder...listen to his actions..his gestures..it tells a lot..what irritates him..what makes him grumble..does he hate chores or does he hate being reprimanded..but always tell him that your his pal..not only his dad..like an older friend where you guys can talk about anything and hang out like adults do..except for the porn and stuff!! haha!!!
If your son's behaviour is within acceptable limits but his attitude is sulky, negative, or outright rebellious, welcome to the club! Pre-teens (often known as Tweens) and teens often express their need for independence and self-sufficiency by sighing or slouching through the day.
Pre-teens and teens tend to act as if "having attitude" is something to be proud of, and it's your job to set the record straight.
The key is respect. Tell your son you expect to be spoken to respectfully. Respect is a two-way street, and you'll get better results if you model respectful behaviour toward your son as well.
It will pass but may take a few years!!
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