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Hi guys
I'm still working as a plasterer, but i'm working on my own, without any customers or work colleagues. My Ex wife has been Furloughed so is at home with my two children.
I'm trying to work as much as i can just in case it locks down further, but my Ex wife has told me that before i can spend time with my children, i need to self isolate for 7 days then i can see them?
Surely i'm not putting my children any more at risk than going to Sainsburys shopping?
Originally she agreed to look after the children in the daytime as she was working from home but now shes put this restriction on me. Surely this isn't what the government recommend and i should be able to go to our normal parenting plan?
Any help would be appreciated
Si
hi and welcome.
Is there any court order for contact or is this just an informal arrangement?
This seems to be cropping up quite a bit at the moment - the government say that children should move between households where the parents are separated, and as you are following government guidelines presumably, then this should apply to you. If she persists, then she should make other arrangements for maintaining contact, such as video calling.
Hi, thanks for the reply,
There isn't a court order, just an informal arrangement as we agreed a 50/50 arrangement that roles over every two weeks.
My issue is, it's my sons birthday in 10 days, she's asking me to self isolate (which i don't think i need to), so i can see them, but then if i return to work i'll have to do the same again?
I think her asking me to self isolate for 7 days is unlawful? I already facetime and video call daily
Si
Wouldnt normally advise this but here it goes. You work on your own so no risk to others or your son. Your ex is being very unreasonable. However this is going to last a while this lockdown. I would tell her your self isolating for 7 days as from today and you would like to have your son friday 24th april or on his birthday.
I would go to work as normal however as you working on your own and you arent required to self isolate as you have no symptoms.
I tend to agree with the above - the danger being if she finds out. Without an order, there isn't a great deal you can do to enforce this.
Here's where the announcement was made:
Do you think it's worth sending the link below outlining the government stance to see if that works?
hi,
like a lot of ex's, she is being silly. people have lost jobs. even if you self-isolate for 7 days and do no work, you will be fine. agree to her silly demand, and see your child. i am not seeing my kids at all, and getting just 1 video call a week.
Do you think it's worth sending the link below outlining the government stance to see if that works?
You are probably best placed to know if that's likely to succeed or just make her dig in more, though if you go back to court, having sent that will make it harder to justify her stance.
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