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Hi there, I pay my ex £650 per month for my children and she still insists that I need to buy new mattresses for their beds and that i need to pay for half of their school uniforms too. I believe that she should use her child maintenance for this but she will not let this go. Can anyone clarify if I am right please. Thank you.
Are you paying via CMS? If so, then that is all you are legally required to pay, you don't have to pay for anything else. If it is via a private arrangement, then it's really whatever you agree on. If you aren't paying via CMS, then you should check the online calculator to make sure you won't be worse off, and then you can open a case yourself with them (one off fee of £20) and once you are paying via that, then as above, you aren't legally required to pay anything over this amount.
hi,
if your paying through Child Maintenance Service, then you only pay what they calculated you to pay. you don't have to pay any more than that, unless you want to make optional payments on top.
Is this an arrangement between yourselves or has this gone through CMS? If the CMS have calculated it, then you do not have to pay any more. £650 is a lot of money, I assume she gets the child benefits too and what ever wages she earns/additional benefits she gets, she should be fine.
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