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When my ex realised that I was going to split with her, she emailed me saying that our child said that I had hit him repeatedly.
In another email she showed a red mark across hers face enquiring about it. The implication is that I had hit him somehow or was negligent in looking after him.
Few days I wrote a letter to the school explaining we had split up and I would no longer be doing school runs to avoid further false allegations. The school acknowledged my letter but it has been over a month now and I don’t know the outcome.
I am now thinking writing to social services or going to the police.
My aim is really for my child to be interviewed and it goes on record that I hasn’t hit him. I am confident my child who is 9 will tell the truth.
We don’t live together. And I organised a meditation session and we agreed she will drop the child in a public venue then pick him up in a public venue few hours later. She wanted me to keep him overnight and holidays but I refused because she she will make further allegations.
The most bizarre thing is if she thinks I had abused our child, why has she not reported it till now. Even more bizarre why during mediation she was insisting I keep him weekends overnights and holidays! Specially that she professionally works with children.
Hi,
Is mediation finished?
In short, no.
We got another one at the end of the month to review if the trial arrangements (dropping the child in public place and picking up few hours later from same spot + evening phone calls) are working for us.
She wanted me to keep the child during holidays and weekends but I refused as I am scared it is a set up and gives her more opportunities to make similar allegations. She mentioned in the mediation that I am refusing to keep the child overnight in order to control her so she doesn’t have time to go out and have a life.
So as a compromise she agreed to trial it. Also I felt she is avoiding to go to court as that will involve cafcas who will write a report. I don’t know why but she backed down when mediator said next step to go to court and cafcas to write a report.
Also deep down I don’t want to go to the court route either so she isn’t declared the “resident parent”. From what I understand resident parents can travel with no consent up to 28 days and I fear she will use that to permanently relocate.
Hi,
I think picking up child from school and dropping to school would be ideal. You don't have to see your ex there. I think you should try ignore her allegations and spend time with child on weekends and holidays
Right now I don’t want to be alone with my child till these allegations are investigated. It’s either true or she’s lying. Hence, why I am only comfortable with seeing him in a public place.
so my question is what can I do? So I report it to police or social services?
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