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What can I do about false allegations of physical abuse?

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When my ex realised that I was going to split with her, she emailed me saying that our child said that I had hit him repeatedly.

In another email she showed a red mark across hers face enquiring about it. The implication is that I had hit him somehow or was negligent in looking after him.

Few days I wrote a letter to the school explaining we had split up and I would no longer be doing school runs to avoid further false allegations. The school acknowledged my letter but it has been over a month now and I don’t know the outcome.

I am now thinking writing to social services or going to the police.

My aim is really for my child to be interviewed and it goes on record that I hasn’t hit him. I am confident my child who is 9 will tell the truth.

 We don’t live together. And I organised a meditation session and we agreed she will drop the child in a public venue then pick him up in a public venue few hours later. She wanted me to keep him overnight and holidays but I refused because she she  will make further allegations. 

The most bizarre thing is if she thinks I had abused our child, why has she not reported it till now. Even more bizarre why during mediation she was insisting I keep him weekends overnights  and holidays! Specially that she professionally works with children. 

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(@dadmod2)
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Hi,

Is mediation finished?

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In short, no.

We got another one at the end of the month to review if the trial arrangements (dropping the child in public place and picking up few hours later from same spot + evening phone calls) are working for us.

She wanted me to keep the child during holidays and weekends but I refused as I am scared it is a set up and gives her more opportunities to make similar allegations. She mentioned in  the mediation that I am refusing to keep the child overnight in order to control her so she doesn’t have time to go out and have a life.

So as a compromise she agreed to trial it. Also I felt she is avoiding to go to court as that will involve cafcas who will write a report. I don’t know why but she backed down when mediator said next step to go to court and cafcas to write a report.

Also deep down I don’t want to go to the court route either so she isn’t declared the “resident parent”. From what I understand resident parents can travel with no consent up to 28 days and I fear she will use that to permanently relocate.

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Hi,

I think picking up child from school and dropping to school would be ideal. You don't have to see your ex there. I think you should try ignore her allegations and spend time with child on weekends and holidays 

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Right now I don’t want to be alone with my child till these allegations are investigated. It’s either true or she’s lying. Hence, why I am only comfortable with seeing him in a public place.

 

so my question is what can I do? So I report it to police or social services?

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