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Hi all,
Been a while, hope you're all ok!
I need some advice, my current order is no affecting my employment. I had to agree to change my hours and change position to avoid redundancy and now it's all clashing. I'm struggling to keep both work happy and the current order.
Can I apply to vary it to change it around work hours? Can I also recommend a change to a future point in contact, I'm concerned about the pandemic and how it's going to affect contact from January onwards. She had it written so I could only take him out and not see any family, this goes from 2 hours, to 4 hours and then to 6 hours. There is nothing open in the current climate to be able to do in 6 hours and there is no reason he couldn't come to my house, she just doesn't want him to meet his other siblings it my wife so is being akward.
Antdad
As its an interim order i would imagine you have another family court hearing date. So no you cant vary an interim order . You can try and speak to ex partner and reach some kind of compromise otherwise it will need to be resolved at next family court hearing. In the meantime is time to reflect and work out what contact you are hoping for in future taking your work schedule into account also.
I am not certain but wants a court order is made to some extent your employer is meant to respect or at least work around times you have child and be accommodating so u can see your child and stay in employment.
Always put kids first as they are only young once and grow up so fast
I had similar issues with order. Told the judge I recently lost a new job because they couldn't accommodate my school runs. They said I can find a more flexible job. I have given up full-time work and going self-employed.
What tier is your area in? You could maybe hover between a coffee shop, shopping centre, a library etc, if those places are open. It's silly court did not consider the current situation and cold weather.
What you could do is on your final contact right before the next hearing, just keep kids at your place. Then complain to court that to keep the kids out in freezing weather, and during a pandemic is ridiculous and not in the best interests of the children.
Thanks guys.
Yeah I have a other hearing in April so quite a while away yet.
I've got a pretty decent job and income but I have to due to having 5 children at home and them my son with my ex.
Can't afford to lose any money at the moment, Covid has caused me a lot of financial issues.
Always something to worry about! Work have helped where they can but equally have to think about the business.
Good employers will try to be as flexible as possible which appears to be the case with yours, however they are under no legal obligation to accommodate the court order as that is a separate legal matter for you..
However defo worthwhile to think about long term what the contact looks like and as Bill says often the courts will just expect you to make sacrifices to be able to see children.. They will not always look at the practicalities (covid or financial).. Depending on your Tier yes look at what is available, I've recently done an indoor shopping centre with some takeaway food sat on a bench with my mum and kids...
Try to reach a temporary alternative agreement with the mother & if this fails, you could try writing to the court politely asking if there is any chance of an earlier hearing and explain the current / changing circumstances. They might be helpful, they might not but it's always worth a try
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