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We've noticed that when our toddler gets upset after getting hurt (a bump, small scratch, etc.), she'll apologize. A lot. Despite reassuring her that she's done nothing wrong and she doesn't need to apologize, it continues. Is this behavior a red flag for something serious, or is it just a phase that will pass? I've not heard of this happening before, so any help would be appreciated.
Likely to be just a phase or their way of communicating but probably worth keeping an eye on. Does your child spend a lot of time with anyone who cares for them? Could it be a turn of phrase from someone else perhaps?
She's at home with one of us at all times. I'm a stay at home dad, so I'm the one she's with the most. I don't feel like anyone apologizes excessively.
This was just something my wife and I have noticed, and didn't know if it was a common thing or something to be worried about. Thanks for your thoughts.
if one parent has a habit of telling off the child, then the child will naturally expect it and be prepared to expect that. and may be scared of being told off.
Hello Jedi, I would just keep reassuring your toddler, cuddles after a bump is good, but also so is being positive and saying something like, " oh dear, have you bumped your finger? Let's rub it better quickly and then go and play with...(her favourite toy)" I used to find that when my two children were toddlers that diversion was helpful and cheered them up relatively quickly. It maybe that she just recognises her feelings well, and that she doesn't want to be upset or make you sad too! Like the other post says, keep an eye on it, but I don't think at the moment it sounds like it's anything to be overly concerned about.
Kind Regards, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer
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