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Hey all, i got my court date through for the next hearing 22 of Feb, is there anything you can do to move that forward? thanks
@hopefuldad Hi, I think that will be very difficult. you would have to keep checking with court, and asking if theres an earlier date. if there is one, they will ask your ex does she agree to attend the earlier date.
@hopefuldad hey, I cant really help with any of you concerns but i was wondering if you could help me at all.
I was just wondering when you applied for court how long it took you to hear back, my brothers being denied all access and mother is now ignoring messages, been an on going battle. We applied for court on the 10th after the MIAM meeting so just wondered what the time scale was to hear regarding first hearing?
He has been refused to be put on the birth certificate since birth daughter in question is now 2.5 years old, been constantly told he needs to proof himself as a dad to gain that right although they've been in the relationship the whole time on & off for 4 years and he had his daughter alone every other weekend. I makes me feel better about the situation knowing he isnt alone in fighting this battle & makes me feel sick how women can use their child as weapons.
I really appreciate your help, Im hoping we can just get some help.
@concernedsister1 Hey , So i started the process early-Mid July, I was given an original hearing date ( which noone attends) for September the 2nd, and a follow court date ( which we do attend) for Feb 22. From there i have no idea.
Honestly in my head im expecting it to be at least 12 months from when i decided to go through the courts to when there will be a resolution.
Hope that helps
@hopefuldad I really apricate you getting back to me.
Thats so much help I would agree going to be about a year. I really hope you get your situation sorted i feel so much for you guys having to have to go through all these lengths just to see your children. Going to be a long year i think for most of us, its a shame they use the kids as a weapon. Looks like i wont be seeing my niece now till court decided as he has no legal rights at all so no doubt will be a longer process. The womans completely destroyed him yet will still expect the money each month!
@hopefuldad hey, I cant really help with any of you concerns but i was wondering if you could help me at all.
I was just wondering when you applied for court how long it took you to hear back, my brothers being denied all access and mother is now ignoring messages, been an on going battle. We applied for court on the 10th after the MIAM meeting so just wondered what the time scale was to hear regarding first hearing?
He has been refused to be put on the birth certificate since birth daughter in question is now 2.5 years old, been constantly told he needs to proof himself as a dad to gain that right although they've been in the relationship the whole time on & off for 4 years and he had his daughter alone every other weekend. I makes me feel better about the situation knowing he isnt alone in fighting this battle & makes me feel sick how women can use their child as weapons.
I really appreciate your help, Im hoping we can just get some help.
Hey so 6 months after first starting this thread and after allegations of domestic abuse, Coercion , alienation and having my time with the children reduced to weekends only. We had our final hearing yesterday in relation to the children ( finances are next month).
The court agreed to a joint living arrangement where the children spend more or less equal time with each parent. Fixed days. Its been a long journey and so many ups and downs but i feel very happy with the outcome. If anyone has any questions please feel free to ask me directly or on here . My takeaways are as follows
1.) A Solicitor is helpful to help you understand what is realistic and if you are unsure about yourself, id definitely have one to help better understand the lay of the land. I self represented in the Court and as a long as you can articulate yourself properly stay level headed , and dont let emotion take over I think its possible to self represent but if you think it could get heated than maybe think again.
2.) The court ( in my experience) Really didnt care about all the fluff and mud slinging , they barely even acknowledged it they just looked at whats in the childrens best interest. If there is no reason why they shouldnt stay with you then hold onto that instead of throwing mud back.
3.) My Ex claimed our son couldnt be away from her for more than 3 nights during term time , but also wanted us to split term time 50/50 with her happy for them to spend 2 weeks with me during the summer. The court claimed if she was happy for that during the summer then there was no truth to her statement during term time.
4.) The court decision is final ,if you feel like you are being messed around or out of control of the situation , start the court process even if it doesnt go completely in your favour at least its sorted , and you can move on with your life.
Again , any questions please let me know. on to the financial order 🙂 .
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