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Can solicitors just ignore my emails when I am trying to arrange some sort of contact. My ex has blocked unsupervised visits, thankfully cafcass have told me that the reasons she gave are ridiculous and will be telling the court this too. Although I do not want supervised visits, it is better than nothing until the enforcement hearing. I am being told that me ex's parents are self isolating, and I know this is not true as I have driven past them a couple of times and I walked right past my ex and her mum about a week ago (if my kids were with them I would have stopped without hesitation) they did not recognize me as I was wearing a hat and also wearing a face make too, but I just crossed the road. I was tempted to remove my mask and say I thought you were self isolating, but didnt want to cause any drama. I have approached her solicitor about this and they just ignore it and it is so frustrating! I have contacted cafcass about it now and asked them to include it in the report
Hi,
Unfortunately yes they can.. they are instructed by your ex and not you. They can ignore you based on a variety of reasons such as...
Incompetence, ex has instructed them to ignore you, they are passing your correspondence to ex who is not engaging with them and so they have no instructions to reply to you with, delays or issues with their fee agreement with ex...
Defo add to your response to court.. i would also suggest never to just surprise your ex out and about as this can lead to false allegations of harassment and intimidation, this includes even if the kids are with her unless of course the meeting is purely by chance and you can evidence this... you do not want stalking, intimidation or harassment allegations as these will all result in delays in accessing the kids...
How old are your kids?
Thanks
Well just as I sent this. I got a reply from them saying I can have a supervised visit this Saturday for three hours at our local park and she will also allow a shorter midweek visit too. I think since the call with cafcass she has been advised to stop being so obstructive and is listening for once, so I am chuffed to bits that I get to see them for the first time since the beginning of March.
They of course deny that I saw my ex and her mum walking together in the high street. They were apparently at the solicitors office but I didn't tell them what time I saw them. But I don't care anymore, I'm getting to see them and that's all that matters
Thats good to hear.
Focus on tne positives and enjoy seeing your kids.. remember kids pick up on your anxiety and worries so get these out of your system in advance by talking to someone and also having someone on hand to talk to afterwards if needed...you want the kids to have fun and remember that they had fun so that they want to see you again and not projecting your anxiety to your ex when they get back home...
Depending on their ages take things like football, kites, Frisbees, tennis [censored] to play with too, some snacks, treats, water etc so that you are prepared (apologies if I'm stating the blooming obvious lol)...
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