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Thanks very much to you all for taking the time to get back to me and indeed for the very useful responses, particularly the wise words from warwickshire1 (which, indeed, were a winner as social services have already "disappeared").
That said, I thought to leave some feedback which others may find useful or perhaps merely as a "data point".
I had an incredibly positive experience with the social worker further to the above described events: she called me just after visiting my ex partner (and of course my son) and was genuinely nice to interact with. She obviously went through a few (most friendly) questions to start with but she made it very clear that she will not be taking any actions as she believes that we can sort this out between ourselves and she found both the baby and the mum in a very good state (I'm relatively sure my ex partner also decided not to "rub it in"). She also said that she talked to the Police and she has no concerns whatsoever with me seeing the baby whenever I wish (even though she suggested to take it slow for the first few weeks and she encouraged me/us not to argue whilst with the baby). I really liked her friendly/human attitude and she was even concerned about how am I going through this on my own (no family "down south" and of course unable to see friends etc.).
Yet again, many thanks for the advice and guidance.
G (a relieved dad)
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