[Solved] Screw the alleged system

It seems like the only way the dads get the kids is if the mother is a junkie with drink/drug problem, mental health issues. or she agrees to let the kids live with dad.

I agree, i feel fathers are not treated fairly at all. In a world where women want equality, the women choose what they want to be treated equally on, mainly pay and that is it. When decent fathers just want access to their kids, we are certainly not treated equally in this matter.

It’s simple really. Children’s lives are disrupted by separation and divorce. After a lengthy battle, courts prefer to keep children living with whoever has custody, so as to minimize disruption. If you can get access to your children prior to any court order, and if you stop contact with their mother, by making a false allegation, that guarantees a lengthy investigation, the children will live with you while the investigation is underway, and the courts will not significantly alter that arrangement.

If fathers were as twisted as mothers the scales of justice would be balanced...

Justice. Balance. It’s all quite sad really.

I got residency of my daughters even though they have been living with the mother for a couple of years after the divorce, and this was 15 years ago - my barrister at the time said that legally, I was something of a freak as it was unusual at the time. My ex was an alcoholic and I did this by getting the police into her property as she had threatened one of my daughters, and the police persuaded my ex to let them take my daughters with them while I drove 3 hours to go and pick them up - after that, with the police report on the state of the property and of my ex, there was no way she was going to get them back - social services backed up the police report, so my ex caved, though still spent a huge amount in legal fees to resolve contact.

There are more cases these days where the father does get residency (child arrangement order to use the modern terms) but it's still unusual.