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During the Covid-19 pandemic, as with all schools and evening classes, my children's school and cheerleading class have been closed due to safety concerns. Recently the school contacted both my ex and myself, regarding the planned return to school for my children and the safety measures that would be put in place for the return of school classes. My ex and myself both finally agreed that it was safe enough for our children to go back to school.
However I have recently discovered from my 6 year old daughter, that she has been back at cheerleading class for 2-3 weeks now (she can't remember how long exactly), which is the first I have known about it. My ex did not inform me, or even share the safety measures in place for the cheerleading class. The cheerleading class always seem to only contact my ex and not me, because my ex normally has our children on the day of the cheerleading class.
I am really annoyed that I have not been informed of the situation before now and that consent was not discussed with me, especially as it is a safety issue (cheerleading is a close contact activity and difficult to meet social distancing guidance), as opposed to just a normal class which my children are attending.
Am I being unreasonable, or should both parents have a say in consent for something which affects the safety of their children?
When she in her class, it's entirely her judgement call what to have her spend the time with.
You can argue that judgement is not right, but it would be hard to argue in front of a judge that a chearleading class that got restarted by the school/club is no appropriate. Does it break current guidelines? is your daughter at risk?
hi,
next time you attend cheerleading, ask them to contact you.
My ex has previously put our children in an unsafe situation and refuses to admit any wrong doing. I contacted my ex regarding the safety guidance at the cheerleading, but there has been no reply. I have asked the cheerleading a number of times to contact me, but they seem to prefer only contacting my ex. It is not possible to know if it is safe or not for my daughter. I am in the dark!
In my previous post i meant "When she in her care"
Not much you can do about this sadly. Choose your battles wisely.
this is pretty petty. there are dads out there who have not seen their kids for over 3 months, because of crazy ex and lockdown.
I am not trying to compare it to the problems of other fathers. I am only expressing my concerns for the continued safety of my children, from an ex who will let our children get into a car with her brother, who she knows has health problems and is not safe to drive. My continued concern is valid to me and not in anyway worse than the problems faced by another father, but at the same time, I have to think of the safe upbringing of my children.
you could report car registration to DVLA and get them to look into it.
Hi Mozzie76,
Looking at this situation diplomatically - is there anyway that the school could issue you with the guidelines for their cheerleading club with regards to Covid ? This may help put your mind at ease. The ideal situation would be communication between yourself and your ex partner with regards to this, but it may be worth contacting the school directly and just explain to them that you would like some clarification. It is obviously an important matter to you, so I hope you are able to have some clear guidance. Best Wishes, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer
I'd agree with Clarinet here.
What approach are you taking when dealing with the cheerleading class/club?
I cant see any reason they would refuse or be unwilling to provide you with their guidance on what basis they are running their classes. After all you cant be the only parent needed reassurance.
Plus for them to make running classes profitable they need as many kids back as possible so having the required safety measures in place and providing parents with reassurance and clarity is key.
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