Non molestation order

The best way to handle the situation is to remove emotion from it, take a step back and clearly provide a response.

Be very careful about when you choose to use the Parental Alienation card. The courts are aware that it is used when domestic violence is alleged, therefore you need to tackle the current situation and potentially imply PA without saying so.

Using language like malicious lies also isn't helpful, although appreciate this is a forum and not your official response. However as I say, remove emotions and start to put together your response.

It is also possible to keep solicitors costs down if you can raise funds. Eg you could draft a response (using advice online and from here) and then have a solicitor review it. It's not cheap but defo cheaper than a solicitor doing it all..

Yes definitely get what your saying and more referring to the kids come first..just let loose some of the emotion I’ve got..money wise big issue at present due to was working for agency temp work dried up abit and since this has all happened all thats on my mind and wouldn’t no help at any job I was doing right now..letter wise if you can help or know anyone that can help in anyway be greatly appreciated

Yes, the situation can be very emotional. However it is also the reason that can lead you to breaching the non mol. No matter what happens do not breach, not for any reason.. Otherwise you will be considered so dangerous that not even a court order can stop you. Plus you can be arrested and on conviction if breach the sentences are serious. All this impacts child contact..

Unfortunately I'm not qualified to give legal advice, what we can do is advise on format of response and best approach. Which I'm sure many of us on here are happy to help with. However you need to put together your responses.

If you manage to clear head and sort employment could you afford solicitor? Or partial costs?

Have no intention breaking order I can’t break something when 1 I don’t know where she is 2 I have no contact number of hers..3 My only focus is on seeing my kids so order is good for me as I know what I can lose if was broken..way things are now getting Universial just to cover the rent and council tax on 3 bed property we both joint tenants housing association..that she refused to remove her name from tenancy as makes her homeless and stops her getting new house where she now is all part of her plan ..so covering costs no go in all fairness

Maybe consider moving into shared private which can be cheaper and look at employment.

Prepare for the long haul and plan what you are going to do. Going through the courts is not quick or easy.. Lots of hoops to jump through.