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I have not had any contact with my 2 children for over 5 years. I could write a whole essay with a multitude of reasons why. However, all I want now is to get back in contact, how do I go about this in the most amicable way, especially if I have serious challenges with their mum and grandparents. Especially when their mother refuses any direct contact with her only through her lawyers.
Hi,
How old are your kids?
If this can not be resolved amicably then I would suggest you invite your ex to mediation. If she refuses, you can sit a MIAM appointment by yourself. Recommend mediateuk. If they think mediation won't work, they will give you permission to apply to court with c100 form. The Miam and c100 will cost you about £300 total. You can self represent and save money.
As you haven't seen kids in 5 years, it's likely court will like to build up your contact with kids gradually. This could start with video calls or using contact centre.
@bill337 thank you for your response. My kids are 11 and 12 years old. When I did try to communicate with them writing letters and sent paid self-addressed envelopes. the response was good paints etc however it turned very sour when I did not agree on financial matters. I then received letters saying they dont want me to contact them and also how i had injured them in the past and alway drinking. this just seemed as if they were being co-worst. so stopped writing which i now know was the worst thing to do. I now have a 4-year-old who is constantly asking about her brother and sister. My ex-parents are filth rich and the last thing the ex-father inlaw said is he will spend as much money as it takes for me to never see my kids again. I have been dealing with a lawyer for over 6 years no direct contact even when I sent a birthday present I got a letter from the lawyers stating I should send any present to them to vet first.
You would have to approach the courts by completing a c100 form but will also approach mediation first. If your ex is not communicating with you at all then this will have to be the only way. How old are your children? You don't have to give us all of the details but is there a reason why she has stopped contact for so long?
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