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Hi all
So I am VERY new to all this. A bit about me, 32, M, UK. Live alone (+1 Dog).
Last night my daughter reached out to me for the first time. This is literally the first contact we've had and I am TERRIFIED.
I knew I had a child out there, but when I was 18/19 the news of a pending child from a 1 night stand was not something I was open to, and ran away. Yep, coward. Cast your shame, it won't come close to the shame I feel internally.
Fast forward to now, I just don't know how to respond, what to do, how to react. I want to do the right thing, do you think thats just letting her take the lead and see what she wants? Should I contact the mother?
Thanks all, this looks like a safe community and I hope you can welcome me into it.
I would assume that her mother must have some idea as she must have given your daughter your details in order that she can contact you. My view is that you just respond to your daughter at this stage and see how that goes.
Have you been paying child maintenance for your daughter?
Hi,
I would suggest you have a phone call with her. get to know her. And that should help get rid of the awkwardness if you decide to meet up.
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