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Hello all, during the COVID issues, my ex is not allowing me to see our girls (there is no issue with them coming to me, i live alone and work from home) I have not seen them in a month and I have ad two phone calls. On the most recent call, you could heat my eldest daughter whispering to her mum saying "what did you want me to say?" she would then return and say "I got taken to the park by *exes new blokes name* " she did this a couple of times, I recorded the calls, will these things be allowed to be raised when we go to court again? I have submitted a c79 to enforce the order.
hi,
i don't think it was a good idea to apply for enforcement. i am going through same. close to 3 weeks and no phone contact. ex being difficult so had to order a phone off ebay and waiting for it to come through lol. cafcass and court advice is if you can't see your kids in this period, then have phone contact.
is your ex not wanting to give you more calls, atleast once a week? probably not a good idea to mention recorded calls etc. court will most likely be satisfied that ex is giving you phone contact. i don't think much will come out of the enforcement, other than court telling your ex to give you more phone contact until this crisis is over.
I would certainly be enforcing order. Although you shouldnt really and cant use it as evidence. It wouldn't do no harm to show it to cafcass officer as it clearly shows ex to be malicious . Ie your daughter whispering what do u want me to say. We have been to park flouting government guidelines and sticking a middle finger up and also using the covid 19 as means to obstruct contact . I wouldnt make a big issue out of it ,just get order enforced and use the situation to increase your child arrangements order.
Thanks both. I had submitted the c79 form before the COVID issues and lockdown as I am supposed to be having them unsupervised, but she is refusing. This again is based on lies, her mum was doing the supervising (something i was not happy about) and she has lied saying that i lost the children in a soft play area (not true) I spoke to another parent so was not paying attention to them? One of the children got knocked over by another child (nothing serious) so she is saying I am unable to look after them properly. they are petty excuses, and if she is that concerned, then my kids should not got to school as they get minor injuries there in the play ground. Funny when at a contact centre with an unbiased person, they had nothing but good things to say,
I recorded the calls for my own safety, because I know my ex will try and tell the court that I have said inappropriate things to the kids or some other lie to make me look bad,
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