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So I had my enforcement hearing today. My ex is trying to allow 3 hours every two weeks unsupervised for 6 months, which is not acceptable in my view. After 6 months, she is refusing overnights but longer unsupervised visits and cannot include my family in these visits either? Cafcass where on the call too and they agreed with me, they said what my ex is proposing is not suitable for anyone.
I tried to come to reasonable arrangement (as i should be having them overnight by now) but it was all refused, so the court have said we should try and make an arrangement ourselves but have requested a date for a contested hearing, if we can make an arrangement, then the hearing will not be needed. For now, I am allowed 3 hours unsupervised contact every two weeks, so it is a very minor victory
Hi,
How old are your kids? And what was your normal arrangements like before you applied for enforcement?
They are 6 and 3. I was supposed to be having unsupervised in March but the ex stopped it on ridiculous reasons. I should be having over nights by now. COVID delayed the enforcement papers being processed so had to wait, but she is in breach of three things in the order and that's what I have to write a statement about. Got a contested hearing in November
Hey
Is a enforment hearing tied into a cao hearing?
Or is this something you have to apply for after the CAO hearing
ok. so your hearing in november will be final. should be straight forward as your getting unsupervised contact now, although very short. what arrangement will you ask in court? fri-sun overnights, and mid week overnight?
I will hope so, I did mention this on the call and I offered what I though was a reasonable solution. I said I was happy to have three hour unsupervised visits for a month, then a further month of unsupervised but for 6 hours and then moving to fortnightly weekend sleep overs and this to increase in the New Year. But the ex refused it. they have asked us to try and settle this ourselves before the hearing, so I will put a proposal to them this week and see what they say.
Hi
I wouldn’t settle
You have parental responsibility rights
I got my 3 and 6 year old on weekends straight away and a contact order that was set out fully in a calendar.
Courts do not look favourable on mother’s breaking contact orders and as far as I know even in Covid fathers access rights have not changed.
I would wait and go to family court as far as my experience courts have generally vowed breaking orders badly.
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