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Hi all, I have posted on here before but cannot activate my old account since the update.
Anyway, I had my two girls on the weekend. On Saturday, I took them to the park, had lots of fun and went home for lunch. We were playing in the garden and my eldest stopped and came out with "I am not ready to sleep here yet" now since September last year when they started coming to my house, she has been constantly asking when she can stay over, she has always complained when she has to go home so it was odd for her to come out with this. I asked her why she said that and she replied "mummy told me to say it" she could see that it hurt me and asked me if i was ok. I explained that it was not nice to hear her say that and I wanted to know what made her change her mind. She then said she does want to stay here, it was just mummy told me to say it.
What do i do? Do i address the mother or do I raise it with cafcass or SS? overnights are due to start no later than May 1st but the order states it can progress earlier if agreed. But I feel she is manipulating them now as the due date for overnights creeps ever closer.
my personal view is that you speak to cafcass if they are already looking at the case. I wouldn't ask your daughter any further, let her volunteer it if she wants to, but you don't want her to feel as if she's caught in the middle.
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